This week a new era has started in the Chastney household – Jonathan has passed his driving test.
At the start of the week he couldn’t drive and that meant that his options for going places were restricted to places his parents would take him, or public transport.
At the end of the week he has a new freedom – he can drive himself places.
One era has ended and a new one has started. There is no going back to the old era it’s finished.
I know many people who look on change as a scary thing. Each new era brings a new set of concerns and worries. Sometimes those worries are just the fear of the unknown. We can look at situation and imagine the worst-case-scenario. Our brains go wild and conjure up all sorts of terrible outcomes.
A new era is really a sign that we are alive.
Only dead things never change – things that are alive are always changing.
Watching the children move through different era is a sign that they are growing and moving towards adulthood. That’s a wonderful thing. Without it they would remain children forever and that wouldn’t be normal or healthy.
Moving from one era to another era gives us the opportunity to reminisce about the journey that we’ve been on. Much like the experience you get when your mountain climbing, and you stop to look around you, reminiscing lets you realise how far you have come. We can spend so much of our life with our head down looking at the next step, making sure that we don’t trip and fall over. We need times when we stop, look up, and realise that things around us have changed.
We’ve built up experiences in one era and now it’s time to naturally move into the next. Rather than fighting it we should look forward to it and celebrate it.
“Hooray, I’m alive, I’ve moved into something new, something I haven’t experienced before”.
I’ve never had to hand over a set of car keys before and watch a car leave the drive with my son in it on his own. I’m not sure how long it’s going to take for me to get comfortable with that experience, but I know that I will.
I’m not sure how long it will take us to work out the practicality of having three drivers and two cars, but we will.
I’m not sure how long it will be before Jonathan realises how much a car costs to run, but he will.
It’s a new era and it doesn’t quite fit yet, but it will.
And no sooner will this one fit than we will be entering into a new one.