Families Part One of Many

Sunset with Jonathan and Emily

What is a flower worth?

What is a sparrow worth?

What is a house worth?

What is a relationship worth?

Priceless

Many people believe that it is money that makes the world go round, but they would be completely wrong. it’s relationships that make the world go around.

My immediate biological family consists of Sue, Jonathan, Emily and myself. But I like to think that we have a much more vibrant view of family than that. Family is really about close personal relationships that last through thick and thin. I have a biological brother who I love dearly, but I also have a friend who I have known for more than 20 years who I could discuss anything with and has been with us as a family through the best and worst of times. I thank God that I am surrounded by a rich set of relationships.

For the last few weeks I have been taking Jonathan to a climbing lesson at our local leisure centre. it was his birthday present, and that in itself says something about him and the type of person that he is. I have no part in these lessons for me it could be a dead hour but it’s not. I go in the gym and create lots of sweat. The great thing is, the gym is on the first floor (or second floor if you aren’t British) and has a huge window looking into the climbing room. So although we are in completely different rooms we are still connected, we are still in relationship. Jonathan has two choices at this point. He could completely disown me (because I’m not that pretty a site in the gym), but he doesn’t, he climbs up the wall either side of the window and peers in looking for me. He’s looking for a response, a relationship response. I also have a choice, I can decide that he is embarrassing, but I don’t I give him the biggest thumbs up I can possibly give and off he goes up past the window to the top of the wall. Later on when I am trying to cool down a bit I go up to the window and look in. Again, he could disown me at this point, but in front of the rest of the people in there he returns my thumbs up.

It’s just a simple example, but it’s an example of the pricelessness of relationships.

And just as I am finishing off – in comes Emily and gives me a big kiss and says ‘good night’. Priceless.

Feeling Brighter

I’m feeling a lot brighter today and definitely more focussed. Decided last night to try a few days without any caffeine. I have noticed in the past that my body can only take so many days drinking coffee without a bit of detox.

I have also made a decision on my work and to get some of the jobs that are currently annoying me out of the way. Clean the decks a bit.

Aspirations

One of the things that I regularly do is to sit and ask myself – what are my aspirations. 

From a work perspective the aspirations seems to fall into two camps:

  • Achieve more, do more interesting things.
  • Do something completely different.
I’m not going to get into what those thoughts actually lead to in this post, but I am asking myself ‘how do I get here?’ What is it that makes me want to re-evaluate my current status. So every time I’ve found myself in this position recently I have tried to assess what are the factors that got me here.
  • Monday mornings – it’s generally a Monday morning thing. I have found this amazing, because I wouldn’t have ever said that my mood is different on different days. I tend to be a fairly level headed person but clearly Monday’s make a difference. So if you are wanting to get me to do something new Monday may be a good day.
  • Frustration – that is another personal study ‘what makes me frustrated?’ The answer is strongly related to my level of ‘trappedness’ at work. I rarely feel trapped at home because I have a great family. I regularly feel dumped on/used/abused at work. I am clearly in a position where my current skills are too valuable to let me leave a particular project or task, but I do not regard projects that use my current skills as interesting. I am definitely not someone who enjoys redoing the same thing over and over.
What is clear is that I rarely feel this way because I feel I am slipping behind, or at the other end of the spectrum because I see something that would be great to do. Sometimes these things do happen, but rarely.